routemanager: enforce a single selected exit node

Exit nodes are mutually exclusive, but the RouteSelector stores routes with
default-on semantics, so every available exit node reported as selected at once.

Reconcile exit-node selection on each network map (and on runtime selection):
keep at most one selected — the user's persisted pick, else whatever management
marks for auto-apply (SkipAutoApply=false), else none. Never auto-activate an
exit node the map doesn't request; it stays off until the user picks it.

The server deselects sibling exit nodes when the user activates one (leaving
non-exit routes untouched), and the tray/React exit-node toggle now appends so
activating an exit node no longer wipes network-route selections.

client/server/network.go

@@ -172,6 +172,17 @@ func (s *Server) SelectNetworks(_ context.Context, req *proto.SelectNetworksRequ
 		if err := routeSelector.SelectRoutes(routes, req.GetAppend(), netIdRoutes); err != nil {
 			return nil, fmt.Errorf("select routes: %w", err)
 		}
+
+		// Exit nodes are mutually exclusive: if this selection activates an
+		// exit node, deselect every other available exit node so two can't be
+		// selected at once. Non-exit route selections are left untouched.
+		if requestActivatesExitNode(routes, routesMap) {
+			if others := otherExitNodeIDs(routesMap, routes); len(others) > 0 {
+				if err := routeSelector.DeselectRoutes(others, netIdRoutes); err != nil {
+					return nil, fmt.Errorf("deselect sibling exit nodes: %w", err)
+				}
+			}
+		}
 	}
 	routeManager.TriggerSelection(routeManager.GetClientRoutes())
 
@@ -249,3 +260,38 @@ func toNetIDs(routes []string) []route.NetID {
 	}
 	return netIDs
 }
+
+func isExitNodeRoutes(routes []*route.Route) bool {
+	return len(routes) > 0 && (route.IsV4DefaultRoute(routes[0].Network) || route.IsV6DefaultRoute(routes[0].Network))
+}
+
+// requestActivatesExitNode reports whether any requested NetID maps to an exit
+// node (default route) in the current route table.
+func requestActivatesExitNode(requested []route.NetID, routesMap map[route.NetID][]*route.Route) bool {
+	for _, id := range requested {
+		if isExitNodeRoutes(routesMap[id]) {
+			return true
+		}
+	}
+	return false
+}
+
+// otherExitNodeIDs returns every available exit-node NetID that is not in the
+// requested set — the siblings to deselect so a single exit node stays active.
+func otherExitNodeIDs(routesMap map[route.NetID][]*route.Route, requested []route.NetID) []route.NetID {
+	keep := make(map[route.NetID]struct{}, len(requested))
+	for _, id := range requested {
+		keep[id] = struct{}{}
+	}
+	var others []route.NetID
+	for id, routes := range routesMap {
+		if !isExitNodeRoutes(routes) {
+			continue
+		}
+		if _, ok := keep[id]; ok {
+			continue
+		}
+		others = append(others, id)
+	}
+	return others
+}

client/server/network_exitnode_test.go

@@ -0,0 +1,26 @@
+package server
+
+import (
+	"net/netip"
+	"testing"
+
+	"github.com/stretchr/testify/assert"
+
+	"github.com/netbirdio/netbird/route"
+)
+
+func TestExitNodeSelectionHelpers(t *testing.T) {
+	routesMap := map[route.NetID][]*route.Route{
+		"exitA": {{Network: netip.MustParsePrefix("0.0.0.0/0")}},
+		"exitB": {{Network: netip.MustParsePrefix("::/0")}},
+		"lan":   {{Network: netip.MustParsePrefix("192.168.0.0/16")}},
+	}
+
+	assert.True(t, requestActivatesExitNode([]route.NetID{"exitA"}, routesMap), "v4 default route is an exit node")
+	assert.True(t, requestActivatesExitNode([]route.NetID{"exitB"}, routesMap), "v6 default route is an exit node")
+	assert.False(t, requestActivatesExitNode([]route.NetID{"lan"}, routesMap), "lan route is not an exit node")
+	assert.False(t, requestActivatesExitNode([]route.NetID{"missing"}, routesMap), "unknown id is not an exit node")
+
+	others := otherExitNodeIDs(routesMap, []route.NetID{"exitB"})
+	assert.ElementsMatch(t, []route.NetID{"exitA"}, others, "only the other exit node is a sibling; the lan route is ignored")
+}