[relay] Signal relay disconnects through the conn context

AddCloseListener deduplicated listeners by comparing
reflect.ValueOf(callback).Pointer(). For a method value that pointer is
the address of the compiler-generated wrapper, not an identity bound to
the receiver, so every peer's w.onRelayClientDisconnected compared equal.

All peers on the home relay register under the same connectionURL key, so
only the first registration survived and the rest were silently dropped.
On a relay disconnect those peers were never notified: statusRelay stayed
connected and the reconnect guard never fired. The relayed net.Conn itself
was closed by closeAllConns, so nothing leaked, but the peer state machine
did not learn about it. Foreign relays had the same defect scoped to the
peers sharing that server.

Rather than fixing the deduplication, drop the peer-level listener registry
entirely. A relayed Conn now exposes Context(), cancelled when the
connection is torn down, with a cancellation cause naming the reason. This
is the same shape quic-go uses for its Conn and Stream types, and it
removes the whole class of problems around listener identity, lifetime and
deregistration: the signal belongs to the resource instead of a side table.

WorkerRelay watches that context in a goroutine whose lifetime matches the
connection. A watcher that wakes up for a superseded connection compares
the conn pointer against the current one and returns without touching the
state machine, so a fast relay reconnect cannot have a stale watcher tear
down the connection that replaced it.

Client.SetOnDisconnectListener stays: it is server-level and drives the
reconnect guard and foreign relay eviction, unrelated to peers.

handleRelayReady also checks the conn context, closing the race where the
relay dies between OpenConn and the readiness handoff and the peer would
otherwise build a WireGuard endpoint over a dead connection.

TestNotifierDoubleAdd covered the removed mechanism and is gone.
TestForeignAutoClose asserted nothing (both branches logged); it now waits
for the relay to leave the client map and fails if it does not.

client/internal/peer/conn.go

@@ -560,7 +560,7 @@ func (conn *Conn) onRelayConnectionIsReady(rci RelayConnInfo) {
 	conn.mu.Lock()
 	defer conn.mu.Unlock()
 
-	if conn.ctx.Err() != nil {
+	if conn.ctx.Err() != nil || rci.relayedConn.Context().Err() != nil {
 		if err := rci.relayedConn.Close(); err != nil {
 			conn.Log.Warnf("failed to close unnecessary relayed connection: %v", err)
 		}

client/internal/peer/worker_relay.go

@@ -3,7 +3,6 @@ package peer
 import (
 	"context"
 	"errors"
-	"net"
 	"net/netip"
 	"sync"
 	"sync/atomic"
@@ -14,7 +13,7 @@ import (
 )
 
 type RelayConnInfo struct {
-	relayedConn     net.Conn
+	relayedConn     *relayClient.Conn
 	rosenpassPubKey []byte
 	rosenpassAddr   string
 }
@@ -27,7 +26,7 @@ type WorkerRelay struct {
 	conn         *Conn
 	relayManager *relayClient.Manager
 
-	relayedConn net.Conn
+	relayedConn *relayClient.Conn
 	relayLock   sync.Mutex
 
 	relaySupportedOnRemotePeer atomic.Bool
@@ -80,12 +79,7 @@ func (w *WorkerRelay) OnNewOffer(remoteOfferAnswer *OfferAnswer) {
 	w.relayedConn = relayedConn
 	w.relayLock.Unlock()
 
-	err = w.relayManager.AddCloseListener(srv, w.onRelayClientDisconnected)
-	if err != nil {
-		log.Errorf("failed to add close listener: %s", err)
-		_ = relayedConn.Close()
-		return
-	}
+	go w.watchRelayedConn(relayedConn)
 
 	w.log.Debugf("peer conn opened via Relay: %s", srv)
 	go w.conn.onRelayConnectionIsReady(RelayConnInfo{
@@ -109,12 +103,15 @@ func (w *WorkerRelay) RelayIsSupportedLocally() bool {
 
 func (w *WorkerRelay) CloseConn() {
 	w.relayLock.Lock()
-	defer w.relayLock.Unlock()
-	if w.relayedConn == nil {
+	conn := w.relayedConn
+	w.relayedConn = nil
+	w.relayLock.Unlock()
+
+	if conn == nil {
 		return
 	}
 
-	if err := w.relayedConn.Close(); err != nil {
+	if err := conn.Close(); err != nil {
 		w.log.Warnf("failed to close relay connection: %v", err)
 	}
 }
@@ -133,6 +130,16 @@ func (w *WorkerRelay) preferredRelayServer(myRelayAddress, remoteRelayAddress st
 	return remoteRelayAddress
 }
 
-func (w *WorkerRelay) onRelayClientDisconnected() {
-	go w.conn.onRelayDisconnected()
+func (w *WorkerRelay) watchRelayedConn(relayedConn *relayClient.Conn) {
+	<-relayedConn.Context().Done()
+
+	w.relayLock.Lock()
+	current := w.relayedConn == relayedConn
+	w.relayLock.Unlock()
+
+	if !current {
+		return
+	}
+
+	w.conn.onRelayDisconnected()
 }